To be polite, this is a question of etiquette, respect, be attentive to people, their feelings, culture and values. It does not seem complicated, but many people do not own this etiquette. While some people have no interest in Police, you probably wonder how you can improve your etiquette in behavior. At the very least, you can learn how to avoid coarse or khamsky passage. Be polite, know the rules of etiquette, it good way make new friends.
Courteousness in behavior.
Be polite, the rule is first ⇒ Be gentle, and not causing behavior, or persistent. This does not mean that you need to act like a meek lan, as if it is a quiet trifle case. This means that you do it without pressure on people around you and do not force them to feel as if they are pushed into the corner.
* For example, if you have a conversation, this is one if you ask a question on the topic or offer your opinion, but the other when we behave rudely, if someone delivered discomfort (verbally or non-verbal) on this topic.
* Even if you try to help, offering to pay for lunch or wash the dishes, do not show perseverance. If a person refuses and says: "Thank you, I can cope with", you can answer: "Please, I would gladly help." If they are still talking, no, let it be so.
Be polite, the rule is second ⇒ If there are doubts, watch others. How do they welcome each other? What do they do with their coat? What topics do they discuss? Various relationships require various standards, and these standards often determine what is polite, and what is not.
* Relationships related to work, lunch, holiday, wedding or funeral, will require different approaches in relationships, another tone than relationships with a group of friends.
Be polite, the rule is third ⇒ Be polite. There will always be a life, as they could meet with this man again in another setting and would not like to cause negative memories that would give a bad location. If someone annoys you or even in an offensive tone says, do not answer as an argument. Offer "Let's not agree" and change the topic, politely continue the discussion, or just give up the conversation.
Be polite, fourth rule ⇒ Start a conversation, ask questions about any other person. Try not to talk too much about yourself if they want to know (or polite) they will ask. Be confident and charming. Do not be arrogant and Khamsky. Look, interested and listen to the answers.
* Do not look over the shoulder on a person when he says, or the look of your eyes is delayed at the new Guest, which just entered. This means that you are distracted or not interested in what your satellite says, it is not important for you or is not interesting enough to pay attention.
Be polite, the fifth rule ⇒ Solid handshake and look into the eyes when you do it. You can practice this, so as not to clap the hands of people or do not hurt them. It will make them feel embarrassed. Especially beware of the handshake of women who have on the hands of the rings. Excessive pressure can be very painful.
* Remember that many people "old school" (especially if the location in Europe) consider it inappropriate to offer their hand for a handshake of a lady or an elderly gentleman, of course, if you are a gentleman or older lady, if you are a lady. Always welcome another person first, but wait for them to file them your hands. But also if you old man Or a lady, keep in mind that if you do not give your hand, this person may feel rejected, since he or she wish to shake your hand. Usually this situation takes another person who moves to you for a handshake. Be careful.
* Do not come to someone with an extended hand. That is, not to be persistent. If you want someone to know that you are moving towards them, install contact with your eyes or smile, maybe a little opening of your hand (bent in the elbow) to make a welcome gesture.
Be polite, the sixth rule ⇒ Know the proper rules of dinner etiquette. Put the napkin on your knees, and do not add to the table, which was not there when they got there ( cellular telephone, glasses, jewelry). Place your wallet between the legs, under your chair. Women should not apply makeup at the table. It looks like rudeness and demonstrates the lack of refinement. If you want to fix makeup or check if there is something in your teeth, go to the toilet.
Be polite, the seventh rule ⇒ Smile and laugh, which shows your fun, but not loud. Volume indicates arrogance or uncertainty. Your charming politeness makesone feel good for another person. Keep in mind this goal, be attentive to the needs of people and their opinions. Do not make offensive statements in relation to any ethnic, political or religious group under no circumstances.
Be polite, the rule is eighth ⇒ To be elegant and show elegance, behave smoothly, with a feeling of calm. People will notice your fine charm, and it will help you significantly.
Be polite, the rule is ninth ⇒ It should be remembered that etiquette and manners vary depending on the cultural region in which you are. Be sure to learn local customs, going on the journey!
The rules of courtesy are the most important attribute of each educated person. Good manners need to learn from an early age, and steadily observe them under any circumstances, in any environment. Let's find out what the rules of politeness in communicating at home, at school, for a walk, in public places.
What needs politeness
Politeness is a manifestation of good education, which directly indicates the level of human culture, the wealth of his inner world. The rules of politeness by a person are not randomly created: to educate people are much easier to expand their circle of their communication, to achieve the tasks.
In fact, to be a polite person is not so difficult. It is enough to instill good manners and not forget everywhere and use them everywhere. After some time, they will enter the habit, and this behavior becomes an absolute norm.
Fig. 1. Even small children should know the rules of politeness.
But how does a polite person behave in society? Let's consider the most common life situations.
- When meeting with a familiar person or group, people need to say hello. It is necessary to do this right: to smile friendly, watch the interlocutor directly in the eyes, greeting to pronounce clearly, with soft, entered intonations.
With friends or classmates you can say hello, saying just "Hi!". To all other people's greeting should be more restrained - "Good afternoon (morning, evening)!", Hello! ", But in no case" hey, you "," Hello "and so on. This indicates a low human culture.
Etiquette - Word french origin, Meaning behavior, the rules of courtesy, good education, courtesies that must be observed in society, at work, at school, university, at the table and even on the street.
The rules of etiquette are unwritten, binding on execution, that is, this is a behavior manner adopted by the "Default" and observed by people as a certain standard not to be discussed. Brought up It should not only know and adhere to the rules of etiquette, but also understand their importance for life and society. After all, good manners are a reflection of the inner world of a person, the indicator of its intellectual level and moral obscuration. There are more opportunities for the development, establishment of contacts, creating a good relationship with the surrounding people and, therefore, to achieve their goals.
Politeness from the cradle
Politeness always and everywhere is valued very high. In large metropolis and major cities, politeness turns into a rare and valuable gift, not available to everyone. Roughness and uncompatory are becoming the norm, and it does not surprise anyone. Therefore, it is very important to grow seeds of etiquette in the heart of a child from the small years, along with the first word and business. Very often parents, not knowing, adopt the experience of their friends or older generation. This is not entirely right.
Each person is individual, including your child. He will not understand an authoritarian and demanding attitude towards himself. Adults need to be patient and exposure to instill their chorality and courtesy. In no case do not force and do not press the child. Ask, be polite, and the child will gladly fulfill all your requests. Repeat when conversing with it as often as possible magic words - "Thank you" and "please." But the rules of courtesy for children are not limited to these words. Gradually, teach him to greet, say goodbye, apologize. Plut him to read, followed by the discussion of the actions of the heroes of the book. Explain how to behave with people, and it is impossible. And most importantly - always and everywhere be polite yourself. After all, the child copies the behavior of his parents and, seeing the example of etiquette, he will try to follow him.
Etiquette with school bench
Having received the basic concepts of good and evil, the child goes to the next level - school, where throughout educational process It is trained by the basic rules of etiquette.
Being a second home, the school puts the same good goals as parents. However, the rules of courtesy in school should not consist only of moral lectures and instructive conversations.
For the deep and detailed development of all the canons of the etiquette of the teacher, classes dedicated to lessons and politeness should be carried out in the form of:
- seminars and trainings on which conversations are held on the principle of "answer-question" are discussed various situations, lines of behavior are played, situations are simulated;
- games on which participants are divided into several groups and beat life situations related to the standards of etiquette.
Such original methods are usually effective and effective, they help to identify the level of politeness of each schoolchild, teach children mutual understanding, behavior standards in a particular situation. Schoolchildren easily and imperceptibly assimilate the rules of courtesy, examples filed with older mentors, becoming more open and sociable.
Hello need to be right
The correct and skillful greeting is one of the immutable standards of etiquette. Helloing with people needs friendly, friendly, openly smiling. The rules of courtesy when meeting with people sound like this: try to watch them directly into the eyes, pronounce clearly and clearly, the tone of the appeal should be soft and causing. Greeting is usually accompanied by words: "Hi" (appeal to friends and closest families), "Hello" (universal appeal), "Good morning (day, evening)" (depending on the time of day).
What should not be done
The rules of etiquette has its own "veto", that is, the prohibited actions that can set you
- Do not contact a person with the exclamation "Hell!", "Hey, you!"
- Seeing a friend, it should not be desperate to make his way to him across the room, delivering the inconvenience to the rest of those present.
- When meeting acquaintances in the theater, the restaurant should be slightly nimble in greetings, and not shouting to the entire district.
- Having met a friend on the street, do not delay it for a long time, better arrange about the next meeting or phone call.
- It is not recommended to clap a unconscious man on the shoulder, healthy with him.
Who welcomes whom
Who should greet the first? The basic rules of courtesy in this case are reduced to the following. First greet:
- man with a woman;
- subordinate with the boss:
- younger (by age, rank, position) with elders;
- entered the room;
- going with standing.
In any case, people are polite and educated.
Handling as a formula of etiquette
The rules of politeness touched on the forms of appealing people to each other. There are three forms of handling:
There are no clear rules on how to go with "You" on "You" does not exist, it is established by the interlocutors themselves, or is present in the form of the appeal of uncompatible people who are accustomed to everyone without the analysis "you".
Norms of packaging etiquette
The rules have existed for many years and centuries. They are the same for everyone and everyone, whether it is a builder or president.
The first and immutable rule - you can not put the elbows on the table. It is forbidden to the chakup and talking with a pillow mouth, especially on a romantic date.
Sitting should be straight, not dumping on a table or chair sitting near a guest. It is considered indecent to drum down on the table, desperately gesticulate, throw up the napkin, appliances, take food with someone else's plate, talk loudly.
The rules of courtesy and etiquette that should be observed at the table are also prohibited to blow on hot food, go through the table, talk on the phone, sing, whistling, painting and poured. The man does the attention of a woman sitting on the right of him: entertains it with conversations, puts her snacks into a plate, poured drinks.
General Regulations of politeness
In addition to the generally accepted norms of etiquette concerning greetings, circulation, cultural rules
at the table, there is a general regulation of courtesy, whose compliance talks about you, as a man with a brought up, followed by his manners and behavior.
- Do not fuss, do everything calmly and measured.
- Try to speak quietly, clearly, clear, without mutters, obscene expressions and brave.
- It is not recommended to be enjoyed to paint in the nose and paint lips.
- Control emotions, be cold-blooded, lining words into elegant forms and expressions.
- Do not laugh too loudly and after passing passing by people.
- Do not yaw with wide open mouth.
- Hold back promises.
- Apologize, greet, use "Thank you" and "please."
- Watch your appearance.
- Do not discuss people in their absence.
- Contact unfamiliar people in polite and conscious form.
Smile - the main rule of etiquette
Smile - powerful weapons Any person who can change everything and everyone. This is like a sunny light ray in cloudy weather, a drop of water in the desert, a particle of heat in frost. Her Majesty "politeness", rules of behavior and etiquette - all these norms are reduced to one, the very simpical advice - Smile. Smile - this is not only a tribute to courtesy, this is a lever of happiness, a recipe for success and have a good mood.
One smile can soften the heart, attract attention, discharge the situation. In many enterprises, a smile is a mistake, and it is not by chance: it contributes to an excellent workflow. Smile, and you will acquire a reputation of an educated and cultural person!
The rules of courtesy may vary on the national basis, but are reduced to one: excellent behaviors, excellent education will always be "in fashion", and no one will be able to abandon them or cancel.
What is politeness?
Politeness is the ability of a person without conflict, with respect to communicate with other people. A polite person is pleasant in communication, his manner of conversation, its manners. In general, he seems to show his interlocutor that he respects him that he was nice to talk to him, and most importantly, the man himself received good upbringing.
Why is politeness so important?
You may have to argue that politeness is a rudiment in modern societythat only arrogant and nonsense survive. Yes, of course, this is the extremely necessary skills for the middle service manager, for office plankton, who are ready to devour each other for the possibility of occupying a leather chair. And only in the chair for some reason, a polite and calm person is sitting, who can show rigidity without resorting to the wool and market acceptors, but to instill such fear that it would be better to infer. What's the secret? The secret is in the inner strength, which gives politeness and good manners. Harmony with it is achieved in respect of the whole world, to comprehend the new, in this you will help politeness.
How to become polite?
Politeness is not only the learned rules of etiquette, but also the character of a person. Perhaps a person will put his elbows on the table, but still makes the impression of a polite and tactful person. Try to abide by the following principlesTo become a polite, pleasant and positive person. And earn a plus one to karma.
Perform your promises. Lita no one loves.
Listen to the interlocutor, do not interrupt it, even if you already understood it. Give a person to finish my thought. You are not in the bazaar, have respect for the thoughts of the interlocutor, let him speak.
Do not criticize something sharply with a substantive person. For example, you criticize vegetarianism, and your interlocutor, it turns out, does not eat meat. It may turn out quite embarrassing. You do not specifically hurt a person, I will even really really get acquainted with him. So let go of jokes with friends, and not just familiar.
Do not forget the magic words: thanks please. Try to use them more often, and you will notice that the surrounding will change their attitude towards you.
Do not bend, after all, this is the indicator of your level.
When you go to visit, take something to tea or souvenir.
When you are driving, please turn off the far light, follow the elementary rules of courtesy and road traffic.
Be indulgence in conversation, how many people have so many opinions. If you do not agree with the interlocutor, you do not need to prove your right with foam at the mouth. From the fact that you will express your opinion in convulsions, your idea of \u200b\u200bthe dispute will not change, but the interlocutor will be unpleasant.
If you hit an unfamiliar place, take a look at other people. They will give you an example of how to behave in this situation. There is nothing shameful to ask if something is incomprehensible. If you say: "Help please figure out," I think, anyone will answer you, and there is nothing gallopped in it.
Handshake speaks a lot about man. There is a whole science dedicated to this issue. Normal is considered a solid handshake with a look in the eyes of the interlocutor. If a person gives a hand as requesing, palm up, hence he is not confident. If a person gives his hand as a royal person, palm down, then he has an overpriced self-esteem and signs of Tirana. According to the old rules of etiquette, older men and women feed your hand for a handshake. This is considered a sign of respect for them, that is, they have the opportunity to evaluate you deserve their handshake or not. So, if you are a woman or an elderly man, keep in mind that the interlocutor can wait for you to first stretch your hand for a handshake.
Norms of courtesy and etiquette
You can write a lot of more than "war and world" on the topic of etiquette at the table. In modern society, it became a little simpler, just remember the main rules:
Rules of etiquette in modern society
- if the girl wants to eat, then there is nothing galloping to say a guy about it. After all, people often occur after the working day. But ordering the most expensive dishes is a movietone.
- if you sat with friends in a cafe, they ordered a little, and friends offer to divide the account equally, you have the opportunity to say that they did not expect to spend a big amount and pay only for themselves. If you are started to reproach, then friends are insincere with you.
- regarding expensive gifts, there is no clear limitation on etiquette: it can be taken from the fan, it is impossible. If you feel discomfort from a gift or you do not like it, then you can return it, saying that a gift is very expensive and you will not be able to give something equivalent in the near future.
"Fu, as non-ultimate!" - says Freken side by the legendary cartoon about the kid and his charming friend Carlson. And if the "Householder" is still a collective image and as a whole ironic, then in real life Hear to your address (especially - addressed to your child) a similar assessment, to put it mildly, unpleasant. Yes, everyone can not please. Yes, individuality is important. But to know the rules of good tone and masterfully own them - it's like you to learn to read: you can not become a book-book, but in some situations this skill can save life (if on dangerous facility It is written "Do not fit - kill", for example).
We cite below simple truths that are familiar with adults, but children need to explain and demonstrate them on a personal example - only they will remember the rules.
What should you teach a child so that he confidently felt in any situation?
1. Say "Thank you" and "please."
2. Hello and say goodbye (with peers and with adults).
3. Do not interrupt someone who says (especially older). And if you still need something important and urgent to say, you should begin with an apology: "I'm sorry that I interrupt, but ...".
4. Ask permission in adults in certain situations.
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Do not take other things in demand.
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Do not evaluate out loud people regarding its external data (exceptions make positive assessments, but also you need to show tact and delicacy with them).
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Maintain a conversation when the interlocutor asks: "How are you?". The child needs to be learned that this question is appropriate to ask friends and loved ones, and that it does not require too much a response. Then, from politeness, you need to ask how things are at the buddy.
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Knock in closed doors and enter only after the answer.
9. Show Aza telephone decidification: Hello and say goodbye, and when the child himself calls anyone, it is necessary to see and clarify whether to talk to the interlocutor.
10. Open the doors in front of older people and skip them forward. The boys explain that they should pass forward girls and women.
11. Do not pull people with elbows at the entrance, for example, in public transport.
12. Offer your help when required.
13. Culture to behave at the table, learn how to use cutlery correctly.
14. Do not talk with a full mouth, use the napkin while eating.
15. Do not stretch through the whole table for food, and ask those who are sitting nearby, pass the dish.
16. With gratitude to take any gifts.
17. Do not speak rough, swiss words.
18. Do not tease anyone and not call.
19. Clean the forgiveness when the situation requires.
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Cover your mouth with a palm with sneezing and cough, not to high in public and do not climb with fingers in the nose.
The list could turn out very long, because the rules of behavior we teach your entire life. For some time for some time enough basic landmarks, after which he will also understand: to be polite - a good and pleasant thing.